My New Flag

I’m so grateful for the peace I’ve felt from God, the love and acceptance I’ve felt from my wife, and the support I’ve felt from friends and family.

Earlier this year I realized that I’m bi. Nothing dramatic happened; if anything it was just a culmination of feelings I’ve noticed in myself developing over the past several years. I know that’s different from a lot of people, who know from an early age that they’re not straight, or at least not entirely so. But I guess you could say that for me it was kind of a “slow burn.” Overall though, I’m at peace.

The first one I told when I finally realized this about myself was my wife. And bless her, she’s been supportive from the start. 💙 And to be clear, this doesn’t change the way I feel about her or our marriage, nor my commitment to her and our family. It just means that there are some dudes I find attractive, just like I’ve found other women attractive before. But straight or bi, I’d still chooses her every day. 🥰

Lately I’ve been trying to be a better ally to my LGBTQ friends. There’s still a lot of hatred and even violence towards them, and it breaks my heart whenever I hear about it. So I’ve done my best to listen, learn, and love. What I didn’t realize at the time is I wasn’t just being an ally to my friends… I was preparing to be an ally to myself. When I finally did realize I’m bi, I wasn’t ashamed or afraid. Self-acceptance came quickly and naturally, and I’m so grateful for that.

I’m not saying I can no longer identify as an “ally.” There are still those who aren’t in as stable and supportive of an environment as me. I want to continue to be a safe person for them. But I’m grateful that I already have my own ally who didn’t hesitate to take on that mantle.

I’ll admit, I sometimes still feel as if I don’t quite belong in this space. But those I’ve already told have been very kind and welcoming, and I’m so grateful for that as well. I guess that’s the underlying theme of this post: gratitude to my wife, to my friends, to my family, and to God for sending them to me.

Thanks for taking the time to read.

With love,

Lark, a.k.a. “Bi bi birdie” 😁

Happy Pride Month! ❤️💜💙